Insecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥<p>What bothers me about Frog and Toad is that the birds are clearly allistic (not autistic), and the lessons that Frog and Toad learn are often about how to meet allistic expectations</p><p>After the birds learn what Frog and Toad are doing with the cookies, they say (repeatedly) things like "I love cookies"</p><p>Do they ask for the cookies? No. Do they explain how they can help Frog and Toad with the cookies? Not in a direct way, only through implications. </p><p>Eventually, Frog says, "I know what we can do!" — and finally realizes that they can give the cookies to the birds</p><p>This is the double empathy problem for autistic people: realizing how allistic people communicate about their needs and offers, and conforming to that.</p><p>It's not even clear about how to interpret allistic signals and navigating allistic communication/interpretations. It's just showing that autistic people have to figure it out ourselves. </p><p>This is wrong. The solution to the double empathy problem is not to learn how allistic people communicate or how to interpret allistic communication, but for both autistic and allistic people to learn how each other communicate and to meet in the middle.</p><p><a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/FrogAndToad" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FrogAndToad</span></a></p>