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Full honest question.
As an autistic person, do you rather have someone TELL you that they don't want to be friends with you or would you rather be ghosted?

I study philosophy and ethics/morality to a really deep level and hold myself to a personal level of integrity and honor.

If you move in the world in a manner that you want to give as much positive as you can and reduce the negative, holding onto your integrity, then the answer seems obvious.

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Church of Jeff

But it is the wrong answer.

Even if the target of your "telling" is autistic themselves, that isn't what they want.

The correct answer is ghosting the situation, apparently, based on my life now.

ADDENDUM:

All the red-flags were true and the acquaintance is a MAGAt. They are threatening me now and I'm looking to get a gun for self-protection now.

@jeffowski

A big part of my Asperger's is that I cannot stand two-facedness, i.e. ppl who say one thing but act in the complete opposite way.

I prefer someone telling me rather than ghosting me.

I mean, grow a pair; own up to your beliefs and feelings.

Ghosting is just cowardly, imo.

@504DR @jeffowski

Yeah, I interpret ghosting as cowardice. If you tell me to fuck off, I can probably still respect you, but ghost me and you lose even that.

@jeffowski
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I guess. 💔
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You don't think we can even grab some generic resolution, talk about, "irreconcilable differences," or something?

@jeffowski probably depends on the situation. I’ve had a lot of times where someone just drops me and I keep trying to reach out because I don’t realize what happened. To the point that now I quickly assume I pissed someone off and drop contact if they seem the least bit disinterested. It’s easier to just not have friends because then I also don’t feel obligated to attend regular events.