@jeffowski I have a serious question. What if you read of a person’s trauma and you think, “ I wonder if anyone has a story like that about me?”
@seraphimages @jeffowski Wouldn't that mean that you traumatised someone? I think we would know if we had 
@tomeire @jeffowski I would imagine so, but we don’t always know what might be too much for someone else. What seems like flirting could be really triggering to the person you are flirting at. (wording intentional)
@seraphimages I think the fact that you're thinking about that is a good thing, and being willing to ask about it is really commendable. Trauma and triggers do vary a lot between different people, there's no for sure way to never trigger anyone. It's totally okay to take the chance and flirt, the important thing is paying attention to the situation and how the other person is reacting so you can get a sense of whether they seem comfortable or interested or not and adjust accordingly.
@seraphimages @jeffowski ah I see. Yes it can be a bit of a mine field, especially if one struggles with reading social cues. And can only imagine the feeling of realising someone is only acting like a friend because they want "more" from you. That's one thing I liked about dating apps, you know you aren't approaching someone inappropriately
@jeffowski serious question. I’m safe for women to be around, and can listen to them share their trauma. Of course it bothers me that anyone has gone through this, but I can be there to support them. How do I tell them that?
@jeffowski@mastodon.worldMen can't be bystanders but instead need to be allies