mk30<p>i'm really bad at encouraging myself when i'm down, so i'm watching this nice video by tim fletcher on CPTSD and encouragement: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aw_F6hz8-fc" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">youtube.com/watch?v=aw_F6hz8-fc</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p>some quotes:</p><p>"people with complex trauma have not usually experienced this nice, safe, nurturing greenhouse where there's lots of encouragement and warmth and positive stuff."</p><p>"they've lived in homes where words were very hurtful, not uplifting. that's been their norm."</p><p>"in complex trauma, in order to stay safe, your brain is trained to look for danger, to look for negative. ... so you can really get down on yourself and see the negative."</p><p>"another aspect of complex trauma families is often shame-based parenting, where criticism outweighed praise, where you're made to feel you're not good enough, that you're a failure. and that's the constant environment that you grew up in."</p><p>"when you're hurt, there's very little nurture. you're just told to get over it and quit being a suck."</p><p>"you might develop hopes that maybe if i do this, my parents will love me, but then your hopes get dashed over and over again."</p><p>"so you come to this place of hopelessness and helplessness. and that is so discouraging. so complex trauma families breed discouragement."</p><p>"people from complex trauma have an even greater need for encouragement."</p><p><a href="https://tilde.zone/tags/CPTSD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CPTSD</span></a> <a href="https://tilde.zone/tags/therapy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>therapy</span></a> <a href="https://tilde.zone/tags/recovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>recovery</span></a></p>